In his defense, you might ask, ‘How could he know so soon?
He needs time to get to know you.’ That’s exactly my point.
Why should I shut down all my options while someone “tests drives” me?
I know many women don’t mind that risk — and often want the trial period with a potential partner themselves — I hold no judgment against them. My past experience had taught me that once in the girlfriend zone, I started to hope the relationship would lead to marriage. So when Chris asked me to be his girlfriend, I refused.
4 Ways To Get Him To Commit After all, you’re casually dating him, but he knows you’re not casually dating anyone else.But if you want to take the next step in your relationship, you should start acting like it, right? In your situation, you’re casually dating and you want to take things to the next level.Your instincts will tell you that if you treat your man amazingly well – if you make him feel good, and let him know that you’re going to be there for him no matter what, and show him how amazing a committed relationship with you can be by committing yourself to him, it’ll make him want to commit to you, right? The Exact Signs You’re With An Emotionally Unavailable Man You’re saying “I want to show you how good a committed relationship will be! but what he’s hearing is “The effort you’re putting in right now is enough for me to devote myself to you – you don’t have to put in any more effort to keep me.” I’m not saying those are the exact words he’s thinking in his mind – this is mostly in the unconscious dynamics between you.He’s free to keep the relationship where it is (because he knows you’re committed to him), and he’s free to date other people (because he never explicitly committed to you).What incentive does he have to change that situation?