Indeed, this is a woman who would have the courage to love a younger man,” says Winter.
Obviously, an older man had more time to achieve a greater number of personal and financial goals.” Interestingly, Winter said, ”If this phrase originated in the early 1900's it was clearly created by men (and therefore to their benefit).” Relationship expert Rachel Russo also felt the rule had no basis in fact - but could see why it had endured.
While some beliefs may stand the test of time, this old-fashioned dating rule doesn’t appear to be one of them.
Age disparity in sexual relationships is the difference in ages of individuals in sexual relationships.
For Russo, “It is more important to look at the life stage someone is in to see if your values are similar than to base your decision on chronological age.” However, she “could see the rule working out much better for men than women,” because “chances are a 30-year-old man dating a 22-year-old woman would be a much better match than a 30-year-old woman and a 22-year-old guy, as men typically lag behind women in maturity and relationship ready-ness.” But Russo also thinks it is important to remember, “Many people have very different priorities, so this rule is not one-size-fits-all and does not guarantee a good match.” As for the endurance of the rule, Russo thinks it may have something to do with men being attracted to younger women.
She said, “one reason why this may have endured is because men are generally more attracted to younger women and would like a rule that makes them feel it is acceptable to date younger.” So basically men are to blame.