That's what was running through my head when I walked up the aisle almost 18 years ago, anxious, teary and excited to take the next step in my life with the woman I loved.
We don't tote babies around when we're little, we aren't the one hired to babysit the twins down the street when we're in our teens, we're instead pushed to physical activities, sports, video games and other activities that emphasize the testosterone factor rather than help us learn how to balance it with the more traditionally "feminine" aspects of humanity.Like going from tag-team wrestling to having to take on the other opponent solo.Worse, in a lot of situations, far from "having your back", your ex can be eagerly waiting to point out your failings, digging that knife in just a bit deeper, while telling the children "daddy has issues, but at least you have me." I think it's tougher on us men, however, because we aren't raised to nurture and be empathetic.Having your own children has always been part of the plan but starting off as stepmother to his kids wasn’t exactly what you had in mind. Yes, you’re sexy as hell but that’s not the only quality that attracted him.A ready-made family might be hard to accept but this is what people mean when they say “package deal.” He loves and cares for others, not just himself. He wants someone who can be a good example for his kids, someone who values commitment and character and isn’t all about the shallow stuff.