Perhaps your teen was “outed” to you, and you think they are gay, lesbian, or bisexual because of other information you have. Nobody should tell you about your teen’s sexual orientation except your teen. (They still have all their flaws too.) This does not change any of that.
Sometimes the news comes as a shock, sometimes parents are unsurprised. Yes, we do live in a world that can be quite cruel and prejudiced when it comes to sexual orientation.
But even parents who have no qualms at the idea of having a gay child usually have some feelings to work through. Will they be the victim of harrassment and discrimination in their adult life? Does this close doors in terms of careers, travel, or other life choices? Depending on where you are geographically, your kid might even hear gay-bashing regularly at school. You can’t make everybody in the world more accepting, but you be an advocate for your kid and for your community. One of the most important things is to be honest, but loving, with your reaction. ” while thinking inside, isn’t going to fool anybody. We will discuss these issues, and many more, in upcoming posts.
You may feel fine with their sexual orientation, but what about the rest of the world? For parents who are not quite sure how they feel about having a lesbian, gay, or bisexual (LGB *) child, or feel negatively about it, this can be even harder. However, getting angry at, or being disappointed in your kid for something they really, honestly, truly have no control over is not fair, and is only going to alienate them. In the mean time, please share any experiences or wisdom you have had.
Your teen trusts and values you enough to tell you that their sexual orientation is different from many of their peers.
A big question that often comes up for parents is friendships versus relationships.
While your average 15-year-old boy is unlikely to ask if a girl can sleep over (although some do), a gay teen may have many friends of the same sex whom he sees without supervision, talks to behind closed doors, or asks to spend the night in his bedroom.
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