Which — as you probably know if you’ve ever used Tinder — is fairly typical. “The stakes can feel lower, too,” Moon added: “You can text and flirt, but there’s no commitment to choose a label.
You’re not going to a lesbian bar, or joining a queer rugby team.
But Tinder has a handful of advantages that, in my opinion, make it a better for people who are questioning if they’re queer, or want to “dip their toe,” to borrow Moon’s phrasing.
For one thing, the gamey design lets your first instinct take over: You might you like girls, for instance, but if you’re not “liking” any of them at first glance, the app may be revealing something about who you’re really attracted to.
As far as I’m concerned, that’s not bad for a free app.
Thanks to years of hard work by LGBT activists, people in certain corners of the world feel more comfortable about coming out than ever before.
Landwirth and Vidal matched on the same day Vidal downloaded the app.
After three and a half years together, the couple got engaged this past April.
Sure, it may encourage shallowness and sexual objectification, but it also reconnects queer folks like me with reality.One November day in 2013, in a suburb outside Los Angeles, Mark Vidal decided to download Tinder. “It felt like the universe was trying to tell me something.” Across the city, in an apartment next to Disneyland, Max Landwirth was swiping through matches on Tinder, too.He set up his profile, and then made a choice: He’d only ever dated women — including a seven-year relationship with his high school sweetheart — but in a moment of honesty and curiosity, he set his preferences to show him both men and women. It had only been a month or so since he had come out as gay to his family and friends.“I was swiping through the app when some of my friends asked to help out, which — encouraged by a couple of beers — I agreed to,” Ian told me in an email.“When they started seeing other guys appearing on it, it was pretty obvious I wasn’t straight.