Eve: I can’t speak on behalf of all women, but I can speak on behalf of all the women that I know, and the answer is yes. Chloe: Yes, there is a stigma around women masturbating, but the truth is, girls enjoy pleasuring themselves as much as any guy. Some girls do it frequently and others not so much.
Chloe: Again, it depends on the lady, but i know girls who masturbate daily, weekly, or never.
We're always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship.
But how often do we actually hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things? No one ever gets taught how to masturbate, and there are plenty of women who feel just as clueless as you do.
Q: I've heard the advice that you need to learn how to get yourself off by masturbating. Our society isn't very accepting of female masturbation, so most women feel a mixture of guilt, shame, embarrassment, and anxiety when I suggest that they start exploring their bodies.
I've tried masturbating before, but I just can't figure out how to do it without a vibrator. It sounds like you're not opposed to masturbating, but that you may still have some conflicting feelings about it.
Perhaps that’s because girls don’t feel the need to chat about it as they’re enjoying their morning coffee, or perhaps they just don’t feel it’s necessary information to share. And really, what’s the need for others to know what we fantasise about when we finally get a bit of ahem.. But, scrolling through Twitter, it seems the male population is still genuinely intrigued as to what masturbation means for a woman.
And so, we thought we’d clear up this huge dilemma by answering all of these really important questions.
However for a lot of women I know that being turned on is a very mental, rather than physical, experience. I often think of my boyfriend (especially as we’re long distance). I’m bisexual so it’s not always going to be guys, and sometimes if I get distracted I stop fantasising altogether and start trying to remember what it was I wanted to buy at Aldi later. I was once told to always “have some me time” before making any big, important decisions.
Lorna: Assuming guys masturbate when they’re tired, stressed, bored, horny or have 10 spare minutes. Beth: If I have long nails I use a dildo or a bullet. The long fingernail problem can be fixed with the help of a vibrator or dildo. They wonder why some girls don’t want to have sex – the bitter truth is nothing can make you cum like a rabbit can. Beth: I definitely think it relieves a sexual build up, especially as I’m single and don’t often get much d***. Some women watch porn, some just use their imagination. If you really want to get off to a photo of me drunk and pouting be my guest.
Lucie: My nails are my own so I don’t have any problems there but I do wonder how girls with long false nails don’t do themselves an injury. Eve: I think so, but not necessarily in the same way as men. I try to wait to masturbate as long as possible though because I’d rather have sex.
They will often be criticised for being open about their sexuality and learn not to talk about it, or even to lie about it.
Lucie: I’m very confident and believe in women having the same social status as men. I’m also more than happy to watch porn with my boyfriends. It’s because we still live in a very sexist world where having a wank is seen as something men do.