Living in different prefectures we never would have met without the show.” “One big difference I’ve found is that there are fewer places here in Japan where it’s seemly to approach women.Whereas in NY– my former stomping ground — pretty much anywhere, including on the street, was within acceptable parameters as a suitable place to meet girls, here, due to certain customs and/or expectations, the number of places is significantly lower.” “Japanese Girls who are looking to get involved with a Non-Japanese (NJ) man (which is relatively few, but appears very high when applied to the number of NJ men living here) will make themselves available at places where they expect to find foreign men.In August 2013 Ben participated in the popular Japanese TV show Motemote 99 where he met a wonderful Japanese women. In Japan, women and men tend to socialize separately, so unless you find someone at work (which has its own issues), you’re limited in the ways you might meet a potential date.One good option is joining a community club or activity, though then there’s no telling if they’ll fit your age range.I think it helps that we both understand each others’ priorities and our goals and plans all fit together.” “I don’t know how hard it is for Western women to meet Japanese guys. The stereotype is that Westerners are strong and Japanese men don’t want that.It could be true some of the time, but I think people can find the type of personality they’re compatible with in any culture.” However, he also states that it’s far less intimidating to approach a Japanese woman than a non-Asian woman: “There’s no real penalty for screwing up.
The decision to step outside of the expectations of one’s society has ramifications that are far-reaching, and can potentially impact every facet of their lives, be it family, career, even friendships.
I never found it easy to ‘get’ a Japanese woman, then again, my fiancé and I met on a Japanese TV show for the express purpose of finding someone to marry.
The modern version of the omiai (arranged marriage) seems to be working quite well for us.
They’ll actually say ‘white men only’ or ‘no black men please,’ from time to time which is enough to turn your stomach.
But I guess you can say at least they’re upfront about their preferences.” “It might seem so in the beginning, but eventually you come to realize that most of those troubles you were blaming on cultural differences were really just a result of your having not done due diligence (and who hasn’t been victimized by their libido’s tendency to takeover when a pretty face and lovely assets are involved, or rushed into something questionable to escape loneliness?