Try To Find New And Exciting Activities That You Haven't Experienced Together Before.
Although It's Tempting To Revisit The Past, Focus On The Future As Much As You Can: The vast majority of people who contact me about this issue also tell me that their date destinations are usually either the old standbys or based on attempts to evoke nostalgic memories with their spouse.
The whole idea for these dates is to bond with your spouse again and to prove to both of you that you can get a long, have fun together, feel the spark again, and reconnect.
You make this less likely if you insist on diving into your problems when the marriage is already struggling.
I would caution you against using sex as the main way to get your spouse back.
I also have to tell you that sometimes having sex while separated can create some conflict and misunderstandings as this can mean different things to both spouses at the time.
It also gives you a common goal and something to look forward to.
I often hear from people who are separated and trying to save their marriages.
One recurring theme that often comes up is dating your spouse while you are separated.
Many people feel as if they have to take the temperature of their marriage during these dates or they use them to "work out" their problems.
In my opinion and experience, this is truly a potentially costly mistake.